Do you ever feel anxious about things you know you should not feel anxious about? I could have the most amazing holiday coming up but instead of thinking about how great the holiday or how excited I am, I just get very anxious. It puts a negative on all things positive. It is a constant battle with yourself that you feel very trapped in. But you know what? Your not alone in feeling this way.
Everyone will feel anxious at some point in their lives. Some of us just suffer more than others and that’s not always a bad thing. I read a recent post on the benefits of being an anxious person and it really made me realise that despite all the negatives that come with being an anxious person, it really doesn’t define you. Anxiety is one of the most common mental health problems and with many mental health problems, it is not always clear to see someone who is suffering. I don’t believe there will ever be a magic tablet that can cure anxiety completely. However, there are many things you can do to stop yourself feeling as anxious and ways of preventing panic attacks reaching a level you can’t control.
This one is much easier said than done. The amount of people that say to me ‘think positive everything will be fine’ is definitely in the thousands by now. For me, my brain thinks extremely negative about pretty much everything. My anxiety causes me to see the most negative outcome of everything. For example, I go on holiday and about a hundred different situations go through my head. What if the plane crashes? What if I have a panic attack on the plane and everyone looks at me? What if I get anxious and don’t manage to make it on the plane? I basically get anxious about getting anxious. The only way I am able to get through these events is by repeatedly telling myself that everything will be okay and focusing on the positives. I take myself into a zone that’s often with my headphones in and think about random things that are positive in the world and it doesn’t get rid of the sickly feeling in my stomach or the banging headache that I have, but it distracts me and makes me feel better.
Surround Yourself with People that Care
Anxiety is very hard to understand. It is something that I can understand myself, never mind my friends and family. Not a lot of people know what to do or say when I am having a panic attack unless they have been through it themselves. All I would say is that stay around people that care about you and that you feel comfortable with. Feeling comfortable in my environment and around people is a key benefit for me. Whether they understand anxiety disorders and panic attacks or not, they care about you and sometimes that’s enough to make you feel ten times better. Just having support around you is always a good thing. Nobody should be suffering alone.
A problem shared is a problem halved, right? If I am feeling anxious about something I try my best to tell someone. This is by no means easy especially because the things that I get anxious about are often irrational and something some people will find strange. Talking really does help though, even if its too someone who doesn’t understand. People care a lot more than you think and they will listen to anything you have to say.
This blog post is not about giving advice on anxiety. Everyone’s anxiety is different and what works for one person won’t always work for another. These are tips that help me and the three things that defuse my anxious feelings slightly. Hopefully they can help you in some way. As long as everyone suffering knows that they are not alone and there are millions of us that suffer just the same. We will all get through it, it just doesn’t happen overnight. For those of you who don’t suffer with anxiety, support is everything and just telling someone with anxiety that you are there for them means the world.
Until next time,